The Friends..

(Starting this one directly, no beating about the bush.)

Friends, they are supposed to stand by you always, atleast that is what the definition says. And its not that they support you when you are together, they will stand for you even when you are apart. No diplomacy nothing, they are with you come what may.

As they say, a friend is like; "i can say anything to you, but if someone else says, brother he has messed with me".

Now, in this big world where we meet alot of people and make a lot of acquaintances, the definition of a friend often gets blurred. We often end up confusing a "people you may know" with a friend, and here is where the trouble starts.

People do not have time for you; you end up wasting your tears infront of those who do not care; you share your success with people who are actually not comfortable with it; you spend on impressing people who actually make fun of you behind and call you a fool to give a treat, all this and many more such.

The confusion increases with social networking. As I had mentioned in a previous blog, the one liking and commenting on your post or photo isn't necessarily a friend.

Evidently, the fault lies with us. We fail to see the truth or many times unknowingly take it wrong.

Remember, a friend is one who comes without calling, stands for you irrespective of what others might think, cries when you cry and when you laugh, he laughs louder. A friend is someone, you just know he is, you do not even have to express, your heart just knows and your friend knows that too.

I do not have a large friend circle but I actually have a few friends I can actually rely on; and they just know it.

And lastly, why do you think, FB introduced them as "people you may know"and not friends.
Precisely!

(Any of the above has not been Confused Genius' experience. She has always been till date smart enough to just know her friends.)

The Flight Syndrome

For all the reasons close and far, sitting and thinking, I actually felt like running away to the jungle or at the very least coiling back to the comfort of my mother's hug and the warm blanket.

The Flight Syndrome, as i call it; is something natural to every human being. No one is born a strongman who wants to face all the issues always.

Even the greatest of the men and women felt like running away leaving all behind. (I never happened to interview any but I am no less right {TIC}). And this is purely obvious; every one wants to live a happy trouble free life, why on earth the pains then.

And it is not that you do not have an option, you always have the option retreat. That "who threw me in the river" joke is not the truth.

Your worries are just like the dragon who scares you till hell. You can easily just run away but then, to tame it; to make it work for you means something.

There is something that makes the difference. Attitude it is!

The will to work and change the surroundings till they suit you, the will to stand up for a cause, the will to stand against all the slander, the will to smile even when you feel like crying, the will to punch the bad times in the face, the will to be the Winner that you are.

Because as they say,
You do not have to fear defeat if you believe that it will reveal the powers you never thought you possessed.

(Confused Genius is giving this wicked smile, because she just figured out how to turn the situation in her stride.)

The Informals

And the thought process started again and what pushed it on board was a simple question from my side," when is your birthday?"
The informals, as the topic goes is my dedication to the really close ones, the ones who are so integral to my life that some times I end up taking them for granted.
And not me alone, it is the story of us all. The family, the "they are because they are"; sometimes we do not really care about them. And it is not because we do not care, it is because we know that they care alot.
So it ends up as, "I know whatever I do, You are not going to leave me."

These are the set of people we are actually our true selves with, no need of any masks, just us, because that is how they have accepted us for long.
We are ready to give them all negative in our life and they readily take it too.
Never will you hear a complaint but then, there have to be certain lines drawn.

Somewhere we get so sure of their existence in our lives, that we actually forget to value them. They are not the dustbins to dump our tensions in, they are the sponge that soaks all the worries out. But then, a sponge has a life too. Someday it hardens too.

A sponge can be replaced but a person can't. So friends, value your sponges. All they need is a little love from you and they will forget it all.
A simple hug and "i love you" from you will be enough for them to smile and feel special.

So while you work on improving your other relations, just devote a few moment to them too.
What are you waiting for now, am not writing any more, go and give a hug to your INFORMALS..

(Confused Genius knew that you would be waiting for this, well she just gave a hug why don't you go now and give that too)